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    As I approach my 84th birthday I have reluctantly decided to stop riding. I realised I had only managed three 100 mile rides this summer as my wife is suffering form long COVID and one of the symptoms is increasing anxiety. While she has always 'allowed' me to go for rides as she knows I get 'stir crazy' if I can't get out, it isn't fair to put her through more anxiety every time I go for a spin. I've been lucky to have had nearly 68 years of riding with only a few minor injuries, so I'm not going to push my luck.

    Now to work out the best way to get a good home for my bike!

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    Sad to hear it, but at least it's a choice you've been able to make and for the best reasons.
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    Hi Ken.

    This decision must have come after some long hard thought. Probably will therefore be the right one but no doubt you will still miss it all. Your efforts to get the rest of us out and riding together were also a credit to you and I wish they had got more results (finally got to Route 11 Café with my local group recently).

    All the best and hope your wife recovers soon.
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    Hi Ken. Given the circumstances it seems the right and thoughtful decision.

    I have some parallels. I had avoided riding at the onset of the pandemic to avoid going to hospital (should the worst happen) and, of course, the first time I went out I had my first 'real' motorcycle accident. I broke bones in my right hand, toes and bruised my leg badly. At the time my wife had just begun to experience her continuing and growing neurological problems.

    While I have done rehab and healed, I have only ridden one time, with my son, around Father's Day. I help my wife almost daily and I am fearful that, should I again injure myself, I would not be there for her. She has been improving of late through therapies and I hope to return to riding in the next year or two.

    Good luck to you and all the best to your wife. I hope her symptoms lessen over time and you are a good man to care for her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheMeteor View Post
    Hi Ken. Given the circumstances it seems the right and thoughtful decision.

    I have some parallels. I had avoided riding at the onset of the pandemic to avoid going to hospital (should the worst happen) and, of course, the first time I went out I had my first 'real' motorcycle accident. I broke bones in my right hand, toes and bruised my leg badly. At the time my wife had just begun to experience her continuing and growing neurological problems.

    While I have done rehab and healed, I have only ridden one time, with my son, around Father's Day. I help my wife almost daily and I am fearful that, should I again injure myself, I would not be there for her. She has been improving of late through therapies and I hope to return to riding in the next year or two.

    Good luck to you and all the best to your wife. I hope her symptoms lessen over time and you are a good man to care for her.
    My sympathies are with you. It isn't easy to balance 'possibilities' while needing to be there for our loved ones. Until recently we both agreed my 'wellbeing' made it worth the risk of riding - after all I don't usually have accidents. (The worst I've had in the last 10 years is dropping the bike when a car changed direction making me jam on my brakes as I was coming out of a junction. The bike stopped, but I couldn't hold it up. My Hellite Turtle air jacket 'operated' and I was left lying on my back waving my arms and legs in the air - I now know how a turtle must feel like! I was shaken but had no injuries, but it could have been a lot worse.)

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    Good Luck Ken.
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    Ken, you have been a lucky man your entire life. You have a wonderful wife who cares for you and loved you enough to allow you to ride a motorcycle and discover the world from two wheels. You rode longer than most of us and you survived nearly unscathed every intersection and every blind curve. My hat is off to you and your bride and I hope the two of you continue to have a wonderful life together. Don't worry about selling/disposing of the bike, that will seem a very minor task as you move forward. I hope good luck continues to dog your trail.
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    I Lost my wife in March after a years long decline from Dementia. Then we had really toasty weather and I didn't feel like long miles in 100 degree weather. So the Spring and summer came and went then I had a wild hair and bought a F750GS 40th anniversary and spent another minor fortune on crash bars, windscreen, Sargent seat, Outback Motortek bag mounts and some hard bags from Harbor Freight. So the bike is ready to go somewhere but I'm turning 75 in February and maybe I'm loosing my rabid addiction to 1000 miles attending rallies in far away states. Losing a Spouse of 50 years does a number on your thought processes. Maybe in time I'll work up that desire to load up and become a vagabond again.
    Like Ken I ponder the need for riding.

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    Nota, I am sorry to hear of your wife's passing. I imagine that losing a spouse after 50 years will indeed do a number on one's thought processes and reassess things.
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    Top of the hat to you Ken
    Surely you are a skilful and cautious rider to ride that many years unscathed
    I wish I will do as good as you.

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    Good luck Ken.

    Your kindness is giving up something you love for the benefit of another speaks volumes about your character.

    Let's hope that your wife's symptoms improve with time.

    Stay healthy.

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    The eighty-fourth anniversary of my birth is now in the rearview mirror. I keep riding because I have no reason not to. At age fifteen I became the proud owner of a '47 British Excelsior with a 125 cc Villiers engine and never looked back. Bought the bike for $35. While most parents are horrified a the thought of their child getting a motorcycle, my mother thought it was a wonderful thing. In later years, she told me the reason she was pleased with the motorcycle is because most of the time I would be in the garage working on it. Over the years, I have owned dozens of motorcycles, road raced in the sixties, both solo and sidecar.

    Yesterday, went for a three-hour ride up the twisty road to Virginia City and back down the other side; then turned around and came back. It is somewhat disappointing that I cannot ride as I did sixty years ago, drifting through the corners, but then tires have changed, bikes have changed, and I have changed. On the bright side, I was out in the wind with the bugs in my teeth.

    My wife of sixty years died four years ago

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    Quote Originally Posted by ccwatchmaker View Post
    The eighty-fourth anniversary of my birth is now in the rearview mirror.
    I can only hope when my eighty fourth birthday is in my review mirror, I get to see it in a motorcycle mirror. (with one of my offspring trying to keep up).
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    Ken, we've been together on the same forums through a couple different bikes. It'll be sad to see you go. It's something each of us has to face at some time though.

    You've had a good run, if you think about it. Many people aren't even alive at your age. I tell my Father-In-Law when he complains about his body not acting like he wants it to that many of the doctors he's had in the past, probably aren't even alive any more. He's 94.

    I started noticing when I hit 60 that some people age faster once they reach 60, and others like you, seem to age far slower. I have friends where the wife is in her late 50s and she looks older than her husband who is in his early 70s. Another guy who taught with me in the prison seminary program is in his early 70s, and looks to be in his 50s. Over in the Colonies, we are celebrating Thanksgiving today. You and I know we have more than this life to be thankful for, and the years we've been riding pale in comparison to what awaits us.

    I've wondered what I'll do when I reach this point also. Buy a three-wheeler? The Can-Am looks like a good choice. Buy a Mazda Miata? Or just stick with my turbocharged Subaru and enjoy the twisties in the winter out of the rain with heated seats.

    Whatever choices you make next, you made probably the best one. To love your wife and please her.

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